I wanted to share something that's been on my heart lately, especially working in the online. If you're more of an audio type person, click the video below to listen to the post - or read on.
Fiddle around on social media long enough and I’ll bet you’ll start feeling some kind of way when you read a post about someone’s latest success. Something like this:
“High-five, y’all! I just had a five-figure month!”
“I’m rockin’ my business. I signed my sixth client and it’s not even mid-month!”
You’ve seen these posts in the Facebook groups you frequent, right? How do you feel after you read them?
Before we get too deep into this, know this...I’m not a hater. Actually, I’m one of those folks who cheers people on and sends a private message congratulating them on what’s going on in their lives.
But I wasn’t always like that. Let me share...
Once upon a time, I applied to be a part of a collaboration with a big name online entrepreneur. I had done my research about what they were offering and I truly felt like we would be a good fit. We sent a few emails back and forth and I felt like we were really connecting. Whoo hoo!
Well, I got one more email from the potential collaborator, asking me how much my business takes in per month.
Call me old-fashioned but I come from the generation of not discussing one’s finances with folks. But I know times have changed so I shared the average of what my business makes per month. And then…
Because in their eyes I was not a big fish, I was not asked to be a part of that collaboration. And let me tell you, I felt some kind of way.
Shoot, I thought I was doing okay. I was happy helping others realize their business dreams, working on some pretty cool projects and meeting some terrific people.
For a minute, I felt deflated. Wasn’t I successful?
And then I remembered something:
Commit your actions to the LORD, and your plans will succeed. Proverbs 16:3 NLT
I reflected on the thoughts that went through my head when I was researching the collaboration: about how I would be running with the big dogs and come across as this big shot influencer in the online business world.
I’m shaking my head just reading that.
Is there any wonder that plan fizzled out?
Have you ever doubted your abilities? Sure you have. Well, you can do one of two things:
Dwell on it and believe that you’re not good enough
Take a look at your life and define your success
Success is a very personal thing. Your idea of success may look very different than mine. And that's okay.
And another thing...
Stop comparing yourself to others. The truth is you may never have a $10,000 month in your business. But does that make you a failure? Will that make you ditch your business? You don’t know how long it took that blogger or online business owner to get to the point where they are making 5 figures per month. You don’t know their story and until you do, be very careful about making comparisons.
Compare yourself to Christ instead so you can be more like Him.
I love my job as a volunteer coordinator at a ministry. And I love my business. The fact that I can do both and satisfy my creative and financial needs is a success, in my mind. Some months are better than others. With anything, there are peaks and valleys. But I don’t let the slower times dictate what I’ve done over the last 10 years.
So, when it seems like you’re swimming in a really big ocean and you feel small, I want you to think about the not-so-small steps you’ve already taken. Maybe you just made the decision to launch a business - that’s huge! There’s nothing small about that. Celebrate that success!
Here’s my challenge to you - don’t put a dollar figure on success. Because the deal is it might take you awhile to hit that figure or you might never make that much and unless you can honestly tell yourself that you’ll keep pushing and it won’t bother you, you run the risk of putting yourself down.
2 Corinthians 10:17 says: If you want to boast, boast only about the LORD.
Surround yourself with people who keep you motivated and encouraged. Believe in yourself when no one else does. You are born with gifts. Those gifts are way different than knowledge in that your gifts are not learned. Your gifts are unique to you. I don’t want to hear you say you don’t have any gifts because you do! You are a superhero in God’s eyes! The Bible tells us that we are all born with unique gifts and when we find (and utilize) those gifts to glorify Him, we will have a full life. And that sounds like success to me.
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